A lot has happened in the past two months. Papers got served, my family, wrenched from me. My soon to be Ex has hooked up with her old boyfriend. I have a new house in a great neighborhood for raising kids.
The paper service was humiliating. The papers were delivered by a young female sheriff's deputy, accompanied by my wife's boss, and boss' boss, our priest, and our priest's wife. A couple people stood around nervously, while several more whisked the crying children, plus some clothing and toiletries, into cars. I read the pages of the court order in shock at the lying and exaggerating that was put down in them. I was indeed enraged. And very very hurt.
It would have been easy to start up verbal and physical fights and get myself arrested, while perhaps inflicting some injury to my wife and her supporters. This is the wrong thing to do. Now that I am in this position, I understand why some individuals would be driven to do such things. But I am more restrained than that. I avoided confrontation as the rest of the court order was carried out and my family disappeared to an "undisclosed" location. I exiled myself to my fathers house once we sold our old place and while I waited to close on a new place, which is right in town, in a quiet neighborhood with parks, walking distance from the YMCA, schools, and entertainments of all sorts.
During my exileto my father's, I intermittently cycled the 17 mile route to my job to work off frustrations and maintain my sanity. The electric car I purchased, initially as a compromise with my wife to end my excessive cycling, about which she complained in the court order, came in handy, allowing me to see my kids a few hours a week. I was lucky my dad took me in during this time, which lasted about a month.
I am now settling in to my new place. Shortly, I will see more and more of the kids, ultimately having them half the time. My wife's place is about 5 miles away. Not too far. Hopefully this negates the need for anyone to pay anyone "child support".
I have verified through witnesses that my wife is back together with her old flame, with whom she had an affair early in our marriage. I now realize I was a fool to trust this woman. She lacks character and integrity, and is selfish, arrogant, and overly class-conscious. This makes her, in my opinion, a perfect fit for the job in finance she now holds, helping her company withhold proper tax payments to our government by hiding money in offshore tax havens. Deceiving, obfuscating, and lying come naturally to her. Ethics is a foreign word to her vocabulary. Her own father set the standard by lying successfully about his birthday in order to obtain retirement benefits a year early in his native country. I regret to admit that this poor excuse for a human being has full rights to the custody of our children.
So the unfounded allegations against me in the court order and divorce decree were merely a smokescreen used to get me out of the picture so the wife's quivering vagina could hurry up and gobble up the next penis coming for it. I have second hand reports of my kid(s) spending overnights at our (now her, I left that church) priest's house so she could go out, ostensibly to spend time with the boyfriend. This man is now 60 years old, old enough to be her father, and certainly richer than me as he also chose finance as a career (I chose healthcare which is significantly less lucrative than the finance jobs this pair holds). Kids report that he is a "nice guy" "knows lots of riddles".
I am particularly dismayed, incensed that my former priest would actually aid and abet this willful dissolution of a marriage for the sole purpose of the wife being able to resume her affair. This man is morbidly obese, has had unsuccessful bariatric surgery, and harbors prejudice toward outdoor oriented cycling folk like me. He firmly believes cycling with the kids is dangerous. My wife exploited that belief, it seems. I really don't know the reasons behind his actions. I may stop by for a visit and question his motives, belief, what he thinks he knows, etc.
Knowledge is power. Hopefully I can translate this knowledge into a significant financial penalty on my wife for her selfish, and brutal dissection of what once was a happy family, despite all my efforts at reconciliation. I had to go through divorce as a child. I vowed I'd never let it happen to my children, and yet it has. This is one of the main roots of my despair. Any money I win in our divorce battle will be closely held, to be bequeathed to my children, and some to worthy charities. It won't undo the damage my wife is bring upon us, but perhaps it will help.
