The losing fight continues

"Blessed are you when (wo)men shall revile you and persecute you, and say all manner of evil against you falsely for My sake." - Beatitudes

 Well, something actually went right this year. I got my tail light tickets dismissed in court! I appealed to the DA for leniency, and I got it, for a change.

Not so in family court... In addition to losing custody via the lies, intrigue, and loophole exploitations of my ex, I am, of course, getting sued for child support. My $90k will get siphoned off of, to augment her $300k salary, while she has the kids 12/14ths of each two week term... Fortunately, the two oldest are past age 21 and are no longer factored in the calculation. I also was saving money in anticipation of just such a trick.

I will also start a second job shortly to keep cash flow stable.

This sociopath I married needs to realize why our relationship is strained: If I had affairs while we were married, then petitioned the courts repeatedly with false allegations of her mental instability (she is anorexic btw) and abusive behavior towards the kids, how would HER demeanor toward ME be affected? I am sure she would be something less than cordial towards me! And, God help me, I haven't been exactly warm towards her through all this litigation...

The most blatant lie of abuse that made the complaint was me encouraging my son to punch me during an argument. This actually never happened in my house. One of my daughters, on the other hand, came to me complaining about the ex's second husband encouraging her to hit him during one of their arguments. We are all human. We have occasional lapses of judgement when parenting. No one here is mistake free. But don't LIE for crying out loud! I wouldn't go to court over an occasional faux pa.

It's mainly about money. Money certainly is the root of all human evil.

Finding a bottom...

 Well, lying and projecting have won the day in court for my ex and the conspiring children, who, in an effort to gain a more indulgent indolent life with mom, painted me as abusive, when all I wanted was for them to clean their rooms and go to church. They even somehow manipulated the judgement to allow visitation only on alternate Tuesdays, with no time on the weekends at all. This keeps them out of church. Just what they wanted. I am appalled at how willingly the judge let himself be manipulated by the false and misleading testimony.

So I am carving out a new life for myself... Taking a second job in anticipation of a looming child support order. My 5 figure salary will now be docked to supplement my ex's household's $500,000/yr income. These are definitely trying times.

I am grateful for the eagerness with which I was hired on as a lifeguard at my local Y. I am grateful for friends, relatives, and colleagues at my primary job, who have offered words of encouragement throughout this horrible year. I am grateful for the 2 year streak of sickness free living I enjoyed throughout this epidemic. I am also grateful for my good physical conditioning, the payoff for the consistent hard work I put in daily exercising. 

My ex girlfriend offered to testify on my behalf in court for this custody battle. I am grateful for that.

In other news, a good friend and gardening partner of mine just died after a long harrowing illness. I will miss him, but am grateful his seemingly interminable suffering is finally at an end.

My ex has joyfully abused and bullied me for years. Perhaps I am too sensitive, but the extramarital affairs and false accusations of abuse do get a man down after a while. It makes co-parenting quite hard. The judge came down on me for not being a good co-parent. He failed to considered the context in which I was trying to co-parent. Some of the blame lies with her, too. It's certainly not all my fault.

More on this later. I shall persist...